How a booking works: From Enquiry to Goodbye.
Many clients are nervous entering a booking and ask a range of questions, how does it work, what happens first. Many of us benefit from a routine and orderly way of knowing exactly what is expected of us, and this blog is to help with those nerves and questions.
The basics - how do bookings start?
Before we meet:
I expect when you enquire that you have read my ad, perused my website, and have a general sense of what you are after from me.
It’s okay to be nervous, maybe you arent sure what some of the fetishes on my list are and have some questions. That’s fine!
It is all about how you enquire. The more clear and respectful you are, the more likely to get a better response from me.
An example is:
“Hi Rain,
My name is XXX, I am located in/enquiring to see you in X TOWN.
I would like to see you:
Date, Time.
Length of Booking.
For XX Services.
Are you available then?
I can pay a deposit via beem/payid/cardless cash deposit.
I look forward to meeting you,
NAME.”
Or if you are wishing to ask specific questions:
“Hi Rain,
My name is XX, I am enquiring for X TOWN.
I would like to book a session with you but had a few questions. Do you offer XX etc etc?
Thank you, I look forward to speaking with you further.
NAME.”
— The more polite you are the more I am likely to take your enquiry seriously. I am happy to have a short compensated phone call to go through some questions with you also. But do not ask me to explain everything on my services list for free, google exists and I am not your encyclopaedia.
The things to never do when enquiring with a sex worker are:
Send dick pics or selfies unsolicited.
Use crude language.
Call when their ad says text only.
Ask for verification - do your research.
Waste people’s time.
Haggle.
Ask for services they don’t offer / natural services.
Offer / Ask for drugs when they don’t offer party bookings.
It’s that simple!
Next Steps: So you’ve locked in a booking!
What’s next?
I will usually send a confirming text day of your booking or the day before if on tour, and will confirm my address with you and the remaining amount you are expected to bring in cash. I will ask you to text me on arrival for instructions into my building. It is very important you follow my directions to the letter. Do not speak to any neighbours or building staff/reception, do not say to anyone or in hearing of others a workers work name, what you are there for, or anything like that.
We give specific instructions for our privacy and safety. If something is unclear or you get lost, that’s ok just ask. But do not ignore instructions.
Try to be perfectly on time. If you are a few minute early, wait in your car before texting to say you have arrived on your booking time. If you are running late give as much notice to the worker as possible.
Texting us you are 10, 20, or more minutes early and loitering around our street/building makes us feel uncomfortable, rushed, and can attract unneeded attention especially in hotels.
Next - In the room:
When you arrive I’ll welcome you in, ask for the final payment. I may ask you to shower on arrival but this is not something I enforce.
If you would like to have one, that’s also fine but it is included in your booking time.
I’ll direct you to where you can leave your personal belongings, I may ask you to remove your glasses and any other electronics on you and leave them on that chair/table.
Then I’ll guide you to the bedroom and usually sit or lie on the bed with you.
I like to start most bookings by asking you a few questions, especially fetish bookings:
What are 2-4 things you would like to focus on in your booking? What is the vibe you are after / how do you want to feel?
(I might also ask some clarifying questions, say you ask for humiliation I’ll ask what kind of humiliation, what does that mean to you?)
What are your boundaries / any no-no’s?
(I ask this as I want to be clear what is not ok with you, anything that can be triggering. It’s okay if you aren’t sure what your boundaries are, we can work through that together as they may come up.)
Do you have any health conditions? Have you eaten today, hydrated?
(This helps me make sure to work within your abilities. If you have say; a bad knee, I need to adjust what positions you are comfortable in.)
I may also ask If you know the traffic light system, which I use as safe words. (But just saying no/stop is also fine!)
The traffic light system is:
Green: Yes
Yellow/Amber: I need a break / I want to do something different etc
Red: Stop
Then, once we have talked through that or while we chat I may gather some of my kink tools, and then we get into it!
With long bookings we may take some breaks to hydrate, go to the bathroom etc.
At the end of a booking when we’ve finalised our session, I’ll ask if you’d like to take a shower while I clean up and we might have a small chat while you get dressed and then I’ll see you out the door. I may provide instructions to get back out of the building. There is also the option to extend your session if you would like.
For some bookings we may go into some aftercare after the bulk of the session is finished. The aftercare can take up as much of the session time as you are comfortable with. Aftercare looks different for different people. It may be just calming down and relaxing for a bit, having a chat, a snack, or cuddles and physical touch. Aftercare is not compulsory for all kink bookings, it is up to you and whether you require it.
Thank you texts and reviews are always welcome after bookings, you can text these to me and I can upload them to my website. This is always appreciated.
I hope this simple guide to bookings helps settle your nerves, now all you need to do is get in touch and have a wonderful time!
Rain xxx.
